Bloody water

You know the old saying blood is thicker than water? Not sure it's as clear cut as that in this day and age....

Not sure how i am supposed to feel, and at the moment i am biting my tongue but in reality i am just pissed! 

Pissed off that someone is staking claim to what is mine and really all i want to do is shove my fist down her throat.... Pissed off that someone is trying to edge their way in to what my role is!

I know that in this day and age family dynamics is complicated and that i was going to face some difficulty in adjusting but i HATE the fact that i have seen the bint answering questions about my son as if she has more involvement in his life... i mean at the most she's him for a couple of hours on a thursday for tea and every other saturday..... that does not give her rights to act like his mom, and jump in to do the things with him i was going to do for things going on at his school.... at least not before checking whether i already had plans to do that first. 

Now i feel like i have been tossed aside like yesterdays rubbish, and i can't say a bean about it to munch because i don't want him to feel bad!

It was different when the bloke was here as he saw munch every day, he was involved in the little everyday stuff that may not seem important individually but become more than you know when you add them all up, and to be honest he was more of a positive role model in the munchkin's life than his own dad is, yet not once did he ever try and act like his dad or try to take over.... 

I just don't think he actually ever realised how much of a part of this little family he had become, and it might not have been his own flesh and blood, but for a while it was a family.... it broke my heart when the munchkin said he missed having him around the other day, i think he misses having some round to do the rough and tumble stuff they used to do.... the name calling, the tickling and play fighting, the help with the computer games. 

But i don't know how to deal with all this, as next year munchkin will officially have a 'stepmom'. And there's nothing i can do to change that! What is the protocol with all this? How much do i complain about what the bint gets involved in? How do i do any of that without putting the munchkin in the middle of it all and making him feel like he's got to choose??

Families are screwed up at the best of times, and if they aren't, they just screw you up anyway... i know flesh and blood isn't the only defining thing but spending the time with them more than just a night every fortnight is and i know it may seem like i am being a hyporcrite and biased, but what i had with the bloke would have been more credible than what the munchkins dad has with the bint... whether they are married or not as it is about the time you spend with munchin at the end of the day!!