Betsy from work has given me a book to read..... it's one of those ones that i usually scoff at, as it sits under the 'self help' section in the book stores. However after reading some of it, there is a lot in there that is pretty much spot on for describing me...... however I'm yet to see if any of it actually helps though, i'll keep you posted!!!
It says that women often just want to talk about their problems, although they aren't actually looking for someone to solve them, as the very act of talking about it helps, where as men always try and find a solution to a problem and don't like talking about it before hand..... and that is so true!
How many times have we got together with our girlie friends and chatted about whats bothering us, and all we've wanted are some symapthetic head nods and yep noises made in the right place? Those type of conversations mean we walk away feeling a little bit more supported and a little less alone, which in turn makes the problems we have that little less horrible?
There is a lot of talk about how when men retreat into themselves as that is how they deal with their problems, women aren't used to this behaviour and it causes them to ask more questions and become worried, and i guess this is very true for me as well.... i don't expect to know the detail of everything but not knowing nothing sends us worrying and we start to question everything
The book says that men want to feel appreciated and able to solve their own problems and women just want to feel cherished, and from my side of things i think that sums it up fairly well..... no matter what is going on if you hear those words 'i love you' or 'how was your day?' just to have someone show they care and are concerned about you, to spend that minute just giving you a hug, it really does help..... so, no i am not from venus, but i do hope that one day i can say that someone somewhere does cherish me....
Theres a good quote i found that goes some thing like " being deeply loved gives you strength, while loving someone gives you courage" and if you think about it, it's so true as if you feel that someone is there for you unconditionally then you fear a lot less, and feel a lot less alone in this world
Anyway, it's late, i'm tired and after the week i've had i'm more than a little emotional..... and at the moment i am just feeling very ignored, very alone and very overwhelmed and broken by everything that has been going on.... my fight is waning and i am reaching my limit, yet i am scared that once i have exceed my limit what the consequences could be, not so much for myself but for my son who means everything to me....
night y'all x
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