Silence is golden

We've all heard that saying haven't we? 


Silence is golden..... Well it really is true! Think back over your day, over your week....


When can you honestly say you've heard.... absolutely nothing? Silence? Between the crowds in the office, the crowds in town, traffic, radio, TV, mobile phones, Internet.... when do you get chance to just lie there and listen to absolutely nothing?


I did it today when I got in from work. Munch was with his dad for tea so the house was empty. So I came in, and rather than turn on the TV or the computer I lay on the settee for a few minutes, closed my eyes and just listened to nothing for a few minutes. Well it's not absolute dead silence as you get to hear the noises you don't normally hear..... noises of the house moving around you, the birds singing outside, the neighbours moving around in their house..... but it was just nice to take that breather from the day.


It was needed too as this week has been painful! 


There's been the normal busyness that seems to have become common place these days, but also the constant battles with people who are supposed to be working towards the same overall goal as you, yet the only concern they actually have is covering their own arses so when it does (and i mean does, not if) hit the fan they can be Teflon don with any blame that is aimed at them!


But this week I've also just wanted to bash some peoples heads together and tell them to grow up.... having to deal with 'staff' issues where if I showed HR what i have it would result in both being sacked has not been my high light of the week. 


It doesn't help that from what I can tell the majority of the problems comes from their cultural ways. They are both Indian and the fact that one is a feisty, independent, westernised, Indian female is really not going down well with the more traditional Indian male. Having to go carefully to ensure that whatever decisions i make comes from fact and i can back up, rather than a 'i think' place, which may then cause me problems.


And I am sat here dealing with this and left wondering why it is some people assume they know what is best for another person? Its not just these two, so many times I come across people who, good or bad intentions, assume they know what is better for someone else.... I've even had it done to me!


I can't speak about other people but I know that I can look after myself and so I don't need someone to come and take care of things for me, at home or at work..... however that doesn't mean I don't want help, or don't appreciate it when I get help. There's a difference between knowing you can do something alone and having to do something alone!! 


I mean there are things at work, that if I am given the time I can do it all, but to have someone come in and pick up a few of the tasks, even if they are the easier to do just time consuming ones, it's great and such a big help.


The same goes for home, I can do most things and don't expect someone to come in and do everything for me, but if, for example,  I do the housework but they vac or clean the bathroom (which is the job i hate most) it's great! 


The little things someone might do, that doesn't take time or even cost very much wins far more points with me than a grand gesture would!


Anyway, I'm going to go listen to the silence in bed again and wait for the sandman to pay a visit


Night!